About Me

"I refuse to live in the ordinary world as an ordinary woman, to enter ordinary relationships. I want ecstasy." -Anais Nin

About Me:

Lover of the erotic arts, sensualist, kinkster. The excitement of a first encounter, the pleasure of a deepening connection, the nourishment from exploring our innermost desires together. These are the things that drive my passion inside of this work. A true courtesan and sensual companion that can provide a safe space for you to surrender into bliss. I will receive you with a warm hug and send you off feeling electric, excited by life! 

My passion is sexual and emotional intelligence, seeking to understand and also share my own personal discoveries with those who are interested. 

Sensual companion, playful date, practice partner extraordinaire. Let's take the time to sink deep into the Eros within us. 

I have a fully stocked, private apartment located in the Domain area. I also offer outcall, talk/text/video, and coaching/education around intimacy, relationships, dating, sex, and navigating the terrain of hiring companions.

Some of my favorite things: 

Flowers: Peonies, Wildflowers, Sweet Williams, Orchids, Roses

Favorite Flower Shop: Austin Flower Co.

Favorite Garden Nursery: The Natural Gardener

Perfume: Laura Mercier Ambre Vanille; Lavanilla Pure Vanilla

Favorite Handbags: Coach

Lingerie: Victoria's Secret; Honey Birdette, Thistle & Spire; Bordelle; Anyalust 

Favorite Jewelry/Stones: Nature's Treasures, Swarovski, Etsy, Kendra Scott, Tiffany's, David Yurman, James Avery

Fine Dining: Uchiko/Uchi; Perla's/Clark's; Wink (in Austin); so many more in Austin

Local Tattoo/Piercing Studio: Shaman Modifications

Gift Cards: (for any of the above) or Whole Foods, H-E-B, Amazon, Vanilla Visa, Nordstrom, Sephora, Lowes

 

~~~Follow me for regular updates on Twitter @juliaeveatx~~~

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Name: Julia Eve Main City: Austin, TX Sex: Female Body Type: Average Measurements: 36D-32-42 Height: 5' 6" Weight: 159 lbs Race/Ethnic: White Age: 41 Availability: Incalls/Outcalls 1st Language: English 2nd Language: Spanish Eye Color: Blue Hair Color: Brunette Hair Type: Straight Hair Length: Short Breast Implants: No Grooming: Bald Smokes?: No Likes: CONSENT. Pretty dresses. High heels. Fun sneakers. Yoga. Weightlifting. Flowers. Gardening. The spa. The opera. Sex. Pleasure. Orgasm. MAKING OUT!!! Reading. Philosophical discussions. Education. Music. Dancing. Singing. Delicious food. Dislikes: Explicit talk before screening. Foul odors. Strong cologne. Boundary pushers. Accept Credit Cards: Cash Only (deposits via cashapp or e-gift card) Available to: Men, Women, Couples, Polyamorous Dynamics, Parties Shoe Size: 8 (sometimes an 8.5 in heels) Shirt Size: Medium Dress Size: Medium Panties/bottoms: Medium

Rates

AVAILABILITY:

I am available most days between 7am-11pm. 

Same day, short notice is often possible before 8pm.

Dates after 11pm will incur an additional $300 per hour.

Rate Session Service Details
$300 USD 1hr Outcalls Public Meet & Greet: Alternative way to screen (ID/references still required) or gauge interest
$600 USD 1hr Incalls
$800 USD 90min Incalls
$1000 USD 2hrs Incalls
$400 USD Incalls each additional hour past 2hr
$1500 USD 2hrs Incalls 2 hour minimum for couples
$+100 USD Outcalls Outcall fee within 30 min of North/Central Austin (In addition to Incall rate)
$50 USD Incalls/Outcalls +$50 Nuru Massage

Drive or Fly Me To You & Overnights

Unfortunately, I cannot offer overnights at the moment, but I can certainly be whisked away for a day! If in Austin, it can be fun to tuck you in and then come back to wake you up ;)


DMTY:

I will drive anywhere within 4 hours of Austin, Texas! 3 hour minimum date + $100/hr travel time roundtrip.


FMTY:

3 hour minimum date + $100/hr travel time + expenses (flight, uber). 

Photos

Etiquette

Safety – I will be sharing my location with another party during our time. I do this for all meetings. It is for my safety. Also, I do let my other party know that I am okay once we’ve met and every other interval, whether I am leaving from one location to another with you or during times you or I use the restroom. 

Offering – Before we meet, it is expected that you have visited my website and are clear about the offering that is due immediately upon our meeting.

Proper handling of offering – Please place your offering in an envelope. Whether at your place or mine, please put the envelope in clear view on a table. Do not hand your offering to me.

Negotiations – The rate for my time is absolutely non-negotiable.

Hygiene – Before we meet, I ask you to prep yourself regarding hygiene. Being freshly showered, hands washed, freshly brushed teeth and mouthwash is expected as your most exceptional presentation. If you visit me, you may take a shower upon arrival.

Punctuality – If you’re running late, I expect an update from you within 15 min of the beginning of our time, preferably before. IF I CAN ACCOMMODATE, I will happily adjust time. If not, then our time will end as agreed when scheduled.  If I have not received any communication within half an hour of our session, I will consider our session cancelled. Cancellation policy applies here.

Encounter – If you would like to extend your time with me, please ask if you may. 

DepositNo deposit required for well screened and established clients in good standing. 25% deposit required for multiple provider experiences, 3+ hour dates, and at my discretion. 50% deposit for travel dates. Full payment may be required for anyone not in good standing who wishes to become in good standing. Deposits accepted via CashApp or gift cards (please ask which ones.). In the rare occasion I need to cancel, your deposit will be refunded immediately.Rescheduling may require deposit or full payment upfront. Communication goes a long way here…

CancellationsCancellations within 24 hours are subject to 100% of donation.Cancellations within 24-48 hours are subject to 50% of donation.In the rare occasion I need to cancel, your deposit will be refunded immediately.Again- COMMUNICATION goes a long way here

Discretion – I always respect your privacy and never acknowledge our acquaintance should we cross paths in public. I expect the same courtesy in return.

Disrespectful Behavior – If you are more than mildly inebriated, aggressive or if you fail to respect my boundaries, I will be forced to end our time abruptly. No refund is given if this happens. 

DOUBLES, TRIPLES & BEYOND

I have MANY lovely friends in Austin, and always enjoy making more! My rate for multi-provider sessions is to match the higher donation.

*Some* of my partners include:

Sexy Charlotte, Mariluna, Jessa Rose, Eden Vanity, Jasper Siren, Tesla Taylor, Sabrina Starkiss, LilTxCutie (Sydney), Scarlett Deux, Kennedy Quinn, Mona Wolf (from Dallas). There are others I have played with and would love to play with again, so feel free to make suggestions. 


I also have a couple of incredibly sexy male partners who love to come visit me in Austin for playtime! The ultimate MFM/MMF experience you've been craving. They have also been known to both be involved in a session with me ;)

Adonis Gray

https://www.playwithadonis.com

Austin Stoirin

https://www.austinstoirin.com

Please note, SCREENING & DEPOSIT REQUIRED for doubles/triples & beyond.



Wishlist

I am a woman of many desires and here they are presented in an organized manner for your perusal. Also a great way to get to know me in a nutshell ;) 

Apart from specific gifts I would relish receiving, I have a few of my favorite things listed in my "About Me" page. If you have desire to nurture me in a specific way, feel free to ask! 

Business Development: 

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1XTRLVJR98H2F?ref_=wl_share

Library:

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/21HTAZ3GFVXAH?ref_=wl_share

Vinyl:

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1PXC0YXEN7B9B?ref_=wl_share

The Naughty List:

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3G2E8ZNDVE1ON?ref_=wl_share

Beauty & Body:

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/174AQ2AV2TGL8?ref_=wl_share

Dress Me: 

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1DP1ZYBKECGQ4?ref_=wl_share

Adornments: 

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2QYN6864HFXRU?ref_=wl_share

Home & Garden: 

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1SF07N2V6BW3Z?ref_=wl_share

Home Gym: 

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1BBXOQI6HVDLA?ref_=wl_share


Educational & Community Resources

The Kind Clinic- Free sexual health services for EVERYONE in the Austin & San Antonio area

kindclinic.org

Phone: 1-833-WE-R-KIND   (1-833-937-5463)

Kind Clinic is committed to serving anyone who needs access to sexual health services. It is our goal to eliminate the stigma around sexual health and wellness for all!

Vivent Health- Comprehensive HIV Prevention & Treatment In Austin

Order FREE condoms, lube & at home testing kits here: 

https://store.viventhealth.org


https://sexwithemily.com

https://beducated.com




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Ingredients of an Incredible Lover

What makes someone a great lover? Is it their physical appearance? What they sound and look like when having sex? Certainly there are surface level ways that make a person more sexually attractive in these ways....


These are some of those qualities I have noticed over the years...


  • Self-acceptance. You don’t need to approve of all of yourself, but accepting who you are and where you are in your journey leads to a certain comfort and confidence in your presence. Being comfortable with yourself means your attention is likely to be more on your partner(s) than worrying about how you look or how you’re being perceived. 


  • Conversely, accepting the person(s) you’re intimate with shows you look at them through shades of kindness and love. You are finding the parts of them you find desirable and lovable. You are discovering the places you can connect to that have a spark.

 

  • The ability to receive, give, and ultimately, what I like to refer to as being a transceiver. There is an art to reception. The giving and receiving dance is beautiful when someone receives so well that they are, in fact, giving. And there’s a way to give that feels like you are receiving. The best way I know how to describe this is through oral sex. When I suck dick, I feel just as much in a position of reception as I do “giving head.” And when someone is sucking my pussy, my ability to surrender into the depths of my pleasure is a gift to my partner(s). 


  • Eye contact. Eye Contact. Eye Contact!!!! It’s intimate. It’s vulnerable. It helps soften our internal sharp corners and blocks our desires. It makes the sex SO MUCH BETTER. 
  • Listening beyond words. Humans communicate on so many levels other than words. Our bodies are always saying something with breath, mannerisms, sound, and touch, and even our genitals are saying things if you pay close attention. 


  • Good, basic hygiene ???? nobody likes how a ragged fingernail feels anywhere, especially in more tender areas ???? Don’t underestimate the beauty of a simple shower with soap. Wash your butt. If you’re uncircumcised, make sure you’re properly cleaning your dick. People with pussies, you simply need water, and you can use gentle soap on the *outside* of your genitalia if you must. And, please, do NOT spray your genitals with anything smelly. That’s unnecessary and, quite frankly, disgusting. I do not want a cologne bottle in my mouth. Plus, I’m going to guess that it’s terrible for your microbiome. 


  • The willingness to be silly, play, not get it right, adjust, and keep trying to find the right spot and rhythm. Sometimes, sex is funny. Or weird. You think you can do a particular position and fall over, or it isn’t playing out like it did in your head. Bodies are strange, and humans are complex systems. Fluids and sounds happen. There may be some poop sometimes if you’re into buttstuff. Clean it off, sanitize anything needed, and move it along. Some women ejaculate. Some women ejaculate A LOT (shout out to Sexy Charlotte in ATX). Tears don’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. Crying is like an orgasm from the eyes. I LOVE it when I get that level of release, and I have a good cry. 


  • Vulnerability. Be honest with your partner about where you are and how you’re feeling. If you are nervous, sad, tired, guarded, or worried about something. Or feeling intense emotions about your partner. Letting your partner(s) inside your mind and emotional state helps them feel connected to you and will allow you to surrender more, which…makes the sex SO MUCH BETTER. 


  • Asking for what you want and being willing to hear a no without making it about you. It’s ok to ask for something you desire, and it’s ok for your partner(s) to say no, and you can STILL have sex. In fact, guess what? Asking for what you want in this way makes the sex SO MUCH BETTER! 


  • Being curious about what your partner(s) want. You don’t have to say yes to everything your partner wants, but simply being open to hearing about it is incredible. There are few places in our lives where we have a safe space to share ourselves so profoundly. Wouldn’t you want to have that space with someone you are intimate with? The ability to express your desires entirely without being shamed for them. Saying you want something does not mean you have to have it or will get it. Wanting and having are connected but not the same thing. 


  • Make your partner feel safe/do what you need to feel safe. When we feel safe, our vigilant center relaxes. It is challenging to orgasm when we are in a state of fight/flight/freeze. There are many ways to create safety, so you must figure out what you need in each scenario. And be willing to communicate that. Be willing to connect with your partner(s) to contribute to them feeling safe with you. 


  • Letting go of the attachment to climax in the orgasmic experience. Orgasm is so much more than that explosive, going over-the-edge feeling. Pleasure is available in every moment. Stay present, with your attention as much as possible, on the current sensations in your body. Stay present with the sensations happening in your partner(s) body. Notice the give & take and the feedback system you are creating together. Because, you guessed it, it will make the sex SO MUCH BETTER.  

Would you add anything to this list? In those times you've felt completely intimately enraptured with someone, what was it that had you leaving feeling like a buzzing beam of light and with a little skip in your step? 

With love, 

Julia Eve

Photo by Marek Piwnicki on Unsplash


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An Honest Arrangement- Musings From Failed Attempts

Every relationship has an exchange of energy. Each person has resources available to them to offer. What those resources look like can vary. Time. Attention. Service. Connections to others or things one would like. Materials....


Because at the end of the day, we *need* each other. While we don't need sex or intimacy to survive, we do require it to thrive. We are hardwired for community, connection, and communion. 


In experimenting with relationships and money, I have yet to succeed in one particular dynamic: arrangements. They are inherently dishonest, tend towards the manipulative side of things, and the energy exchange is unequal. Boundaries are muddied, becoming unclear. What I appreciate about session work is that all parties are very clear about what each is showing up with and for. And then you go about your merry life, away and apart from each other.


That being said, these are a few things I learned while exploring arrangements that I will keep in mind should an exciting opportunity present itself:


  1. Make sure you ask for enough compensation. Consider the following factors:
    • Time expected from you for all interactions: in person, texting, phone, trips. How much of your daily attention is being given/invested in this person. 
    • Consider what you may be sacrificing in your current and future business. The more exclusive, the higher the financial offer. Ask for enough to offset the cost of not growing your business. 


  1. Ask for your financial compensation two months in advance. When things go awry, you will likely not be given your money for the current month. Think of the second month's allowance as a deposit and put it aside for that inevitable moment you need to restart/rebuild your previous business or find employment. This way, you're not left scrambling trying to pay your bills.


  1. Be honest about what you want/expect and what you are available for. This can be done with kindness and tact. But the more direct you can be, the less room there is for nonsense. 


  1. Pay close attention to red flags indicating your benefactor is not honest with you about their desires/intentions/limitations. Hold them accountable for being transparent in their communication and the boundaries of your relationship. 


  1. Appreciate the gifts offered, and also ask for what *you* want. If they are more valuable gifts, such as jewelry, do your research and have them be investment pieces worth something in the future. For example, not all diamonds are valuable. Even if they have a $20,000 price tag!


     6. Prioritize your mental health! You want to show up as your most radiant, loving, sexy self.


  1. Notice if you start harboring resentment or a strong aversion to the person. That's a sign that something isn't right and needs immediate attention. It could be on your end of things. It could be on their end. Talk it out. Figure it out. Resentment only grows and gets worse if ignored. 


So…would I entertain another arrangement? Absolutely, I would! My skepticism lies within the doubt that a suitable partner would be transparent and honest enough with themselves. And thus, with me. They would have to be able to separate the depth of emotion from a specific storyline. They would need the ability to cultivate intimacy, care, and love without the attachment to the relationship looking like running away together or hiding me in a tower. One of the tenets of an arrangement is *not* combining lives. You each have completely separate, private lives apart from each other, but come together for relief, fun, and excitement! You come to each other, offering your particular resources to enrich each other's lives. 


The arrangements I have had and have witnessed others have do not include that level of awareness or transparency. In fact, they carry with them a strong sense of fantasy and illusion that quickly erode healthy boundaries. 


And that, my friends, is a recipe for heartache and headaches.


With Love, 

Julia Eve





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The Arrangement

We met in the summer. It was hot and sticky; blinds were drawn, and the air conditioner was on. A dim lamp and my sexy playlist low. A standard hour session with a much older gentleman. He seemed sweet. Unassuming. Shared some red wine. 

He was in his 80's. Married fo...

And he was HOOKED. The sex was unremarkable. Honestly, I can't remember if he climaxed. I know I did not. I do most of the time. But sometimes, regardless of my best efforts, there is not enough foreplay or guidance in the world I can give someone. Enter IOP (illusion of passion) here. 

There is always a time, continuously over one's career, that the concept of an arrangement enters the dynamic. This was one of those times. The last time. 

Our hour became two hours, and a trip to Vegas became the offer for a semi-exclusive arrangement. In hindsight, it needed to be a more significant offer for the emotional labor required and something on par with what I could earn through session work. He didn't want me to see anybody else. I told him my personal life was off limits, but I would remove myself from the platforms and stop escorting. This should have been the first red flag. The second red flag was when he asked me to wear a pretend wedding ring while we were together. Many red flags ensued.

X amount monthly, x amount of time agreed upon each week with a trip sometimes, and access to a credit card with a specific limit. Gifts. Flowers sent to me. The gifts were impractical, and I'm not that into flower bouquets. The occasional one, yes. Absolutely lovely when you are surprised. What am I going to do with a Diamond necklace? Especially when I found out later that it was worth nothing because he didn't know how to buy them correctly? I would have preferred a new car to my beat-up Honda Fit at the time. 

The relationship lasted about 6 months, from that hot summer day to the final email sent reiterating, once again, that I was not available for what he wanted. I did not want to be his girlfriend, nor did I want him to leave his wife and marry him. I wanted a simple arrangement. But simple, it had not been nor could be. Every conversation became the exact reiteration. I am available for XYZ with you, but I am not available for XYZ with you. I thought I was being clear. I left out essential information for fear of losing him as a client. I had shut down the business I had been building and relied upon him for my livelihood. The piece created a hole in my boundaries, giving him the illusion of possibility. 

I was MARRIED. 

But I thought he would hear me if I was clear enough in every other possible way. I didn't usually withhold that piece of information from my clients. I started to reflect on why I did that. And how it contributed to our dynamic. 

I had told him I was committed. I had told him I had children. I had told him I was happy in my committed relationship and had no desire to change anything. I had told him I had other sexual partners and the occasional romantic partner. (My husband and I are monogamish.) Hence, my personal life was off-limits. 

Didn't matter. He became increasingly delusional. I became increasingly resentful and averse to him touching me. He wanted to divorce his wife and lock me away in a tower. 

A conversation while negotiating the arrangement while having dinner in a Casino:

"I don't intend to be hurtful by saying this; I want to be clear, direct, and honest with you. You have nothing other than money and some fun experiences to offer me. You are much older than I am. I enjoy a lot of different kinds of sex with a variety of people. You don't have the physical ability, nor a strong desire, to have sex. I have a long life of possibility ahead of me. I also love my life the way it is."

"I understand. I could give you a baby?"

"What? No! Absolutely not. I have children already with my much older ex-husband. I know what that's like. It would be unkind and cruel to do that to me and a baby. So, what, we would have a baby, and then you would die soon and then leave me with yet another child to raise on my own without a father?" (I would also later learn he did not have enough money to afford what he offered me, so that offer would be doubly cruel, leaving me to fend for myself yet again.)

I began to drink heavily when we were together. Smashed his deluge of flower vases into the creek in the back of my home. Started to detest him. 

In the end, I received an email one day saying he could not afford to give me my allowance that month. After we had been in NYC for the Opera, having some of the most decadent dinners I've ever had, I had to start covering some of the expenses when he could not move his money around in a way that allowed for his desires. The email came as no surprise. 

So, it was over. There were many other moments of emotional tumult and manipulation. Like when he got angry with me, left me in another city, and returned to Austin without me. Then, two more emails one year apart with the news of his divorce and the offer to run away to Belize. He offered to have dinner at his home and try again. I declined.

I have learned so much about myself through being a sex worker- about relationships, boundaries, pleasure, communication, and personal responsibility. I appreciate the opportunity for introspection to learn how I contribute to an experience. Because I am in the business of creating experiences. When things go right, I do it again. Build from there. When things go wrong or not to my liking, I ask, "What is my part?" 

There are often things out of my control. There are just as often things I have said/not said, done/not done, that are in my control. This is where I can make a decision that will change what I am experiencing. Places I manipulate the truth for my own gain. This is not inherently wrong or bad. It simply is. But seeing it clearly allows me to adjust my reality however I want. 

Coming Up Next…

Things I've Learned About Having An Arrangement


Photo by Mimipic Photography on Unsplash


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In the Beginning...

When the seed was planted in my head, a mere curiosity got buried in the back of my mind. The mid-20s stay-at-home mom whose only understanding of relationship & intimacy was to tether yourself to one person...


I longed to feel desired. At the time, my husband would barely acknowledge me in the room when he was home. In the few and far between moments, he cared for our very young children so that I could have alone time at the grocery store. I meticulously counted each penny in my basket with a small notepad and pencil. In case I needed to erase something. 


It was then that a seed was planted. 


After we divorced and then separated, I started dating and having sex again. I hadn’t had sex but a handful of times in my 20s. I had more sex as a teenager! I actually had a lot of sex as a teenager because I’ve always been a slut. I was not new to the world responding to me as a sexual creature. I was a girl raised in our culture with men making comments, whether they were inappropriate or ones coming from a place of admiration, which made it feel different. Still, from a young age, I noticed the effect I could have on people by walking through a room. Not only with how I looked but how I behaved. How I spoke. How I felt. I could put my attention on someone and let them consume me. 


As I started to date for the first time as an adult, I WAS STARVING. RAVENOUS. For touch. For attention. For kisses. To be held and cherished and loved. I started to learn about other options for being in relationships. Different options for sex. Polyamory. BDSM. Orgasmic Meditation. Tantra. Sex Magic. AND I WANTED IT ALL. How did this body work? How could I learn to have otherworldly orgasms that I’ve heard are possible? I met people who were open-minded, intelligent, sensual, and magical. Explorative. 


As I went head first into a journey of sexual exploration, I also found myself in a position with 2 young children, no roof over our heads, and no real education or training for me to quickly find a job that could make me an affordable living; because, I had spent my 20s utterly devoted to being a stay at home mother who helped her husband with his business. I truly believed I was committed to that marriage for the rest of *his* life. He was older. Much, much older. During this time, I also started to awaken to the fact that he had been 55 when he met me. I was 19. 


19!!!!! I have a 19-year-old now. I can’t imagine not doing everything possible to veer my child away from that dynamic. I can’t even imagine my child being in a position where that would be possible. But at that time, I was alone in a big world looking for something and had absolutely nobody to guide me. Naturally, I chose to be cared for and become a mother. In hindsight, choosing someone with some money would have been slightly better. 


So there I was, now 29, faced with the need to make money, pursue a passion, AND not willing to settle for less anymore. Then somebody said, “I have a friend you should meet. You remind me of her. She’s been an escort for 15 years.” 


And so that tiny seed in the back of my head, buried deep in the soil of my mind, was watered. 


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CONDOMS- Safe Sex or False Advertising?

Ok, ok, ok. Bit of a hook in the title.


Not entirely untrue, tho...


Something I am consistently surprised by is just how many people do not understand or use condoms correctly. We hear, "USE PROTECTION!" And rightfully so! Condoms have helped our sex health in an incredibly positive way! 


But how do you pick one? There are SO MANY choices. Choices are fraught with an idea of what kind of dick you have. "I'll take the Magnum" *wink wink*


Yeah, sorry, but that's a terrible condom for many. Unless it does fit you, you risk it falling off. Or fuck, it might be too small. What then? It's also a thick condom if you don't get the Thin version. However, thick can sometimes be helpful. More on that later.


Here, I'm going to list a few key things to consider when trying to choose a condom. I am not a doctor. These are my opinions based on some facts and my extensive research for the past 12 years in the lab. *wink wink* I may be missing some stuff. It's even possible I am not 100% correct on everything. I'm open to this being a living document, so feel free to send me *constructive* feedback! 


I'll also offer some suggestions at the end. 


1- IF IT DOESN'T FIT CORRECTLY, IT'S NOT GOING TO OFFER MAX PROTECTION!!!! If it's not snug enough, it will come off. If it's too tight, it can cut off circulation to your cock, and I hear that it doesn't always feel too good. If you want a squeeze at the base of your cock, use a cock ring :) To find your perfect condom, you will need to research and explore. I have a selection of my faves that I will list later. My One Custom Fit is an excellent service where you can find your PERFECT size. They have 52 different sized condoms!!!!!!!!!! Wow. It gives you some perspective, eh? 


2- Make sure you are putting it on correctly. There's a way to unroll it and gently (or not so gently, whatever you're into) squeeze the air out of the reservoir tip. That is there to catch the cum. But if there's an air balloon, it may rupture more easily. 


3- TIP for the tip: put a little bit of lube in the reservoir before you put the condom on.


4- If you have multiple partners, use condoms on your toys. Or even if you don't have multiple partners, it makes cleanup SOOOOOO much more effortless. 


5- If you are having sex with multiple people at the same time, make sure to change the condom before swapping partners. Otherwise, only the cock is protected. Unless the pussies are fluid bonded. Have that conversation if needed. Everything is a choose-your-own-adventure in my world. 


6- Latex sensitivities are higher in females. Make sure you find a non-latex option in your search. 


7- INTERNAL (or FEMALE) CONDOMS: not the sexiest option as it's like a sock you have to insert into your vagina, and it takes a moment to make sure you don't get it twisted. But they can be a fantastic option for anyone who has a difficult time staying erect in that transition period between hard and putting on the condom. They can also be a good option for water play (have you ever been in the water and then tried to put on a condom???) And they can be inserted up to 8 hours before sex! So, if you want that extra level of spontaneity and the illusion of bareback, they can be fun! They do also offer a tiny bit more protection for the pussy as it covers part of the labia. 


Fun fact: You can use them for anal sex. At least, that's what I hear. I have no personal experience using this form of protection for anal. Not sure about having it hang out in your butt for hours before. If anyone has personal experience with this, I would love to hear about it!


8- LAMBSKIN: Only suitable for pregnancy protection!!!! They do not offer protection against STIs. I repeat: 


****LAMBSKIN CONDOMS DO NOT PROTECT YOU FROM STIS ****


They have tiny pore size holes because they are made of skin. I know, right? It never occurred to me, either.


9- LELO Hex Condoms: It seems like a sleek, modern condom: sexy packaging and futuristic looking. However, if they get a tiny little hole, the condom stays intact except for the tiny little hole. A traditional condom will burst if it gets a tiny hole. This is a good thing because then you know it has happened. With the Hex condoms, you don't see that you've just had a condom break. It is creating a false sense of safety. 


10- I do not like condoms with spermicide. The chemical in it can be irritating and cause your pussy to become more vulnerable if you are using them a lot. At least have a non-spermicide option available and ask your partner before using any condom that has anything added to it. 


11- RIBBED? WARMING? FLAVORED? I'm not too fond of these. So I can't offer much here. But there must be someone out there who enjoys that sort of thing. Explore, explore, explore!


12- COLORED? GLOW IN THE DARK? I dunno, sounds fun? Different colored condoms are handy for playing with toys with others because you can assign a color to a person, and you know which toy has been inside of which person :) Red-colored condoms can be nice if you're menstruating.


13- A thicker condom can sometimes be helpful if you cum more quickly than you would like and want to last longer. 


14- Putting a condom on a soft cock? Here's a lovely article I found online, replete with demonstrative images. You're welcome. 


https://joanprice.com/2016/04/how-to-put-condom-on-soft-penis-wi.html


15- Last, but not least, remember: lube is our friend! Water-based, silicone, and oil based can be used on non-latex condoms.  But DO NOT USE OIL BASED ANYTHING WITH LATEX. Oil can damage latex and make it more susceptible to breaking. Lube also helps prevent breakage. It also feels good!


CONDOMS I LIKE & RESOURCES


My favorite is Okamoto 004. Non-latex. They seem the most adaptable for the broadest range of lengths and girths. Most of my partners have liked them. I like their thinness, and I've never had one of those slip off during sex. 


Skyn Condoms are beloved by many and pretty adaptable. They are non-latex and come in different sizes. If you like Magnums, try Skyn Elite.


LifeStyles Snugger Fit is a good option for those on the smaller side. Latex. 


https://worldcondoms.com is a good resource with everything categorized well to try different kinds. 


https://onecondoms.com/pages/myone is where you can get fitted for your very own custom size! It is helpful for anyone on either side of the average size spectrum or struggling to find the right size in standard sizes. Or if you're just curious. Or you're feeling fancy. Happy to assist with measuring...


https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/hiv-prevention/condoms.html is an article about condoms and how to use them


https://sexwithemily.com/the-basics-of-safe-sex/ Article on The Basics of Safe Sex


https://www.plannedparenthood.org/blog/how-do-you-use-lube-with-condoms#:~:text=Water%2Dbased%20or%20silicone%20lube,with%20non%2Dlatex%20plastic%20condoms.">https://www.plannedparenthood.org/blog/how-do-you-use-lube-with-condoms#:~:text=Water%2Dbased%20or%20silicone%20lube,with%20non%2Dlatex%20plastic%20condoms.">https://www.plannedparenthood.org/blog/how-do-you-use-lube-with-condoms#:~:text=Water%2Dbased%20or%20silicone%20lube,with%20non%2Dlatex%20plastic%20condoms.


There is a plethora of options out there, and if you are having a difficult time with condoms, it's worth the investment of trying to figure out what works best for your continued safety and pleasure! 


And don't forget, if you need someone to practice with, you know where to find me ;)


With love, 

Julia Eve



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Tell Me What You Want

As Dr. Emily Morse likes to say, “Communication is a lubrication.”

Yes! You filthy, dirty animal, a little dirty talk can be fun! That’s not quite what she’s trying to say....

The other day, I had a wonderful new friend come to visit. I greeted him enthusiastically with a hug and a kiss at the door, he wanted to take a quick rinse, and then he sat down at the edge of the bed, wrapped in a towel. 

He then asks, “can we talk first about what sort of session I’m interested in and about what you enjoy? See where we might make the most of our time?”

YES! Absolutely. Definitely. PLEASE!!!! As I tempered my screaming-for-joy insides in response, he let me know that his intimacy needs are fully met at home, and was looking to satiate his raunchier side. 

While I’m adept at figuring out what’s wanted and leading a session, I haven’t figured out how to read minds. To the extent you tell me what you want, what your desires are for our time together, is to the extent I can give them to you. And that is why I am here! I’m here to give you what you want (within reason, natch.) My role is that of a fantasy fulfiller, desire satiatior, and erotic curator.

 

Equally as important? My pleasure.

 

When someone is direct with what they want, it turns me on. Because my get off is connected to your get off. And, I PROMISE your get off will be much greater if I stay in my pleasure. Think of our experience together like a Venn diagram. There’s a circle filled with your desires. There is a second circle filled with mine. Then, there’s where those circles overlap. That’s where we can potentiate our experience. Part of my job is to find, as quickly as possible, where that overlap is. Being that time is of the essence here, the more information I have, the quicker I can find that overlap. Of course, there is also something to be said for the natural discovery of desires as time allows. *wink wink*


May I ask- what is it you desire in this moment with me?

Yours truly, 

Julia Eve




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The Average Size of A Clitoris is 4-6 Inches Long???

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Prep That Clit and Why Magnums are the Racist Condom

GO SLOW! Get that clit PREPPED! You want her pussy soft, fat and WET before penetration. And don't forget, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH USING LUBE!!!! A woman not getting wet is not necessarily a direct correlation to her turnon or ability to orgasm. There are many reasons we can't get wet...

Also...Magnums are the racist condom. She's right. I've always hated regular Magnums. Haven't you noticed how horrible they feel???? I have much better suggestions for the more well endowed. And equally great suggestions for those needing a smaller fit. Safe sex is smart. Your condom actually fitting you and knowing how to put one on correctly is key. But, that's a whole other blog! And looks like I'll have to get my Suggestions list going soon.

 

Part 1- The Vulva

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwuIiE5zC10

 

Warmly,

Julia Eve

 

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Sex as a Practice

You know the old adage, "practice makes perfect." 

In a sense, that's true. From a different viewpoint, perfection is an illusion. 

The truth is, what we're really searching for is Mastery. Mastery of any skill requires time on the mat. It requires experien...

Some people are more intuitive when it comes to sex. I have always had very open, and accepting, beliefs around sex and intimacy. Even as a young girl, I longed to connect with others in a physical way. And didn't really see how that had to extend to commitment or a romantic relationship. Why not spend time touching, caressing, kissing, fucking a friend? A stranger? What a great way to get to know someone!

But no matter how in touch you are with your body or your sexuality, you can always learn something new. 

SEX IS A PRACTICE. 

You can learn anatomy (which most of us are not taught adequately.) You can learn techniques (which most of us have gathered from porn.)

***PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT***

Not sure if you know this yet, but porn is NOT the best way to learn about sex! I mean, I love good porn just as much as the next guy, it can be hot to watch with a partner, and provide great fodder for masturbating, and sure you can even get some fun ideas to explore! BUT. A very big BUT. It is NOT the best way to learn about sex.  And, currently, it is the main way we learn about sex. [insert sad face emoji here]

You don't see all the prep work that goes into each scene. You don't see the amount of faking involved. You don't see all the lube that was injected before a woman is fucked to high heaven.

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SEX IS A PRACTICE.

When you are trying to get fitter, do you go to the gym once or twice and expect results? NO. When you start a yoga practice do you expect to nail all the poses immediately? NO. When you learn to play an instrument, doesn't it take many, many hours of attention, energy, and PRACTICE to even be kinda good at it? Let alone MASTERING that skill? 

Find someone (or someones) that you can practice with! Be willing to make mistakes. Be willing to laugh about something not quite working as you thought it would in your mind. Be willing to fail. Find a Mentor. Someone who knows the art of pleasure and how to help you learn to become more intimate in your own relationships. Because, sure, getting your dick sucked is great. But understanding what you like, what you don't like, and how to replicate that in other experiences is the practice of sex. 

And who doesn't want to Master the art of sex?

Yours Truly in Practice, 

Julia Eve

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Educational, Sexy, Fun Musings & Tidbits Coming Soon!

To be so intelligent in so many ways, yet so ignorant...so UNEDUCATED...around our sex and intimacy is, well, dumb. 

How well do you really know your body? Your partner's body? Or how they work together? Have you taken time to consider the art of negotiation in the erotic realm? Do you...

Desires. Boundaries. Trust. Safety. Dirty thoughts!!! All are important.

Let's talk about it?

Signing off, 

Julia Eve

 

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